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It's My 35th

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Today my husband and I have been married for 35 years.

I was thinking last night about all the joy and sorrow that has crossed my path over the past 35 years.

I typically don't reflect on the past too much unless something triggers a memory, which obviously my anniversary triggered me thinking of the birth of my 3 children in Tucson, moving to Phoenix, adopting my son and getting pregnant during the adoption process. I can't help but think of how we were two 18 year old kids that fell in love and never thought about all of the obstacles that would cross our paths along the way. We just continued to do what we had always done - work hard and love hard. While most people work on becoming rich, having a title, the best car, biggest home, etc., I work for my family. There isn't a bank account large enough or a material item meaningful enough to me to sacrifice my family.

Over the past 35 years I have also experienced some losses - lost both of my parents, some of my sisters and brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, and our dog Lacy, but that's just the circle of life. I'm a cancer survivor, I have my health, my husband, my children, my grandchildren, my Tucson family and a handful of really good friends. I am blessed!                                                                              

Michael and Kelsey

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Thank you Jesus for 53 years of life and 35 years of family blessings.



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