Murraytalk

What do you love about yourself? I'm not talking about the exterior you - we can all love our exterior with a good plastic surgeon and a good weave. I'm talking about the authentic you. I was preparing for my upcoming workshop yesterday when the question,  what do you love about yourself popped in my head. That led me to the decision that March workshop is going to be on Loving Yourself. Did you know that's okay to love yourself? Not in a conceited way where you think you're better than others, but in a acceptance way. It can be difficult to see our self- worth, and it's not always easy to love and embrace all that is good in us. I think we're all a little guilty of being too hard on ourselves. We can pick out flaws that know one else even imagines in us. Why do we beat ourselves up like that? It's because we begin to believe all the garbage in our head. Our subconscious mind is powerful - we feel in our body what we represent in our brain. You need to

 I had a great weekend...saw Joyce Meyer on Friday with a friend and my daughter. Saturday had coffee with a friend in the morning and went to a movie with my husband that evening. My Sunday was good as well, but certain people that I love had a bit of a struggle. Therefore I spent quite a bit of time on Sunday praying and thinking about disagreements. I realize that we all have disagreements in life, but when you purposely try to break someone down emotionally with words - that's called being a bully. Words hurt...words scar. When people know your past struggles and make the decision to continue to be a part of your life, they should never use their knowledge for power. It's not fair or right for anyone to throw verbal darts. There's a lot of power in words so think before you speak, and remind your self of the sayings, silence is golden , and, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Whenever I begin to slip back a little bec

This morning I was looking through old pictures and this one stood out to me. I think mainly because my grandkids in this pic are now all in middle school. They're beautiful young ladies, and I must add, Fabulous . I remember them learning to how to ride a bike - before long it will be learning how to drive a car. They are starting their own journey - working on making their mark in the world. They're strong confident young ladies that are caring, loving, and giving. I'm so proud of them. In fact, I'm proud of all the women in my family. We all believe in the importance of women empowering each other and standing up for what is right. In fact, my daughter Melissa was just sharing with me last night how she sat down with a 13 year old that's a little lost right now. She explained to her the importance of loving and believing in herself. We need to remember that sometimes we're the only positive thing that someone sees, and the only voice of reason that so

          I just had to share this collage that my daughter Melissa and her assistant Dee created. I know that they wear their shirts proudly and share their story to inspire others. Thank you!!!!                       I just love that people can relate to my Murraytalk T-shirts. Each person has their own interpretation of  what Bent Not Broke n means to them. I have found that it's kind of a right of passage for some.                   We live in such a judgmental society that it's difficult to be authentic - we tend to personify someone that has had no personal struggles. I don't know of anyone that has skated through life without a few bumps and bruises along the way. We need to stand proud and let people know this is who I am. We don't need to be consumed by our past, but we do need to be a witness to others when the opportunity arises. Our personal story educates, lessens the burden for others, and creates hope. We need to be authentic and true to who we ar

My girlfriend and I often say, "Someday life will be normal." But as the days and the years continue to go by I think this just might be my normal. So my question is, if the chaos that continues to get thrown in my life is my normal, what am I suppose to be doing with it? I have to admit that I've learned quite a bit from it all. For example, I'm more knowledgeable than I ever thought I would be when it comes to addiction. I would make a great relationship counselor with all the drama that I get thrown in the middle of, and lets not forget happiness - pretty confident I can get you there if that's where you want to be. So is this what I'm suppose to be doing with my life?    I find myself at least 3 times out of the year asking God, "What is your plan for me, what is my purpose?" Maybe this is His plan - I don't know. Maybe I just think too much, maybe I ask too many questions, or maybe I need medication. Do I really need to know the answer

 I aged when I wasn't paying attention! When I turned sixteen I was given a drivers license. At eighteen, my friends and I were hitting the clubs and could legally drink and vote. At fifty five I have all that plus much more. In fact, I just found out from my sister in Tucson that Albertsons and Frys offer 10% discounts on Wednesdays - Bring on the discounts! My age has never has meant much to me simply because I have never put much thought into aging - there's more important things in life for me to think about, but I must admit I'm excited to embark on being a Senior Citizen. Admittedly, I have learned a few things over the years. Such as, there is truth to the saying with age comes wisdom . I understand what "life is a journey, enjoy the ride" really means now. I know that life is something more meaningful than money, and I know that there is purpose in life. I know that I should always be thankful for being blessed with another day regardless of what kin

Two things have been bothering me the past couple of days so I'm going to vent. The first is all the Instagram pictures with girls wearing You Can't Sit With Us  t-shirts. Do we not have enough mean girls and bullies in the world that we find the need to have a mean girl t-shirt too. Someone please explain to me the purpose of these shirts because I don't get it, and I don't like them! Second on my list - people that refuse to fix themselves but insist on making everyone around them miserable. Here's my thought. If you want to be unhappy and complain about everything everyday - live alone and don't communicate with anyone. I guess I should rephrase that. Don't communicate with me. I know the old saying misery likes company, but I don't want that kind of company. I can't stand the placing blame on others when they're the ones that are creating all the chaos and negativity. I realize that everyone has unhappy moments, but there's a differe

I am. Two powerful words that we need to remember to place positive words after.                                                                                                                                                The word  Enough I decided to place after I Am on my Murraytalk t-shirts because personally I think it's a great thing to know and believe in the value of your own self-worth. It's how I see myself  - I am enough as I am.  I may not be what others expect me to be, but I am who I am. I Am Strong, Happy, Thankful, Blessed, Confident. I am a daughter, sister, friend, grandmother, a wife. I am bent not broken, misunderstood, creative, different, the owner of my actions, good enough. I am passionate, spiritual, believer of miracles. I am not what happened to me. I am me - I am enough!                                                                                                                                                                                  

I have to share how blessed I feel hearing what Bent not Broken means to so many people. I've heard from people that have lost loved ones, jobs, homes, struggled with addiction. I love how they didn't allow their circumstance to define them or destroy them. It's not always easy to find the positive in situations - it's refreshing and uplifting to hear from those that have the will and desire to not be defeated. When you're not the one fighting the battle it's easy to say they need to get over it, move on, quit living in the past. I can tell you first hand it's not that easy. Overcoming our past takes diligence. It takes re-training our thought process and filling our brain with positive thoughts. It's critical to be able to say "I Matter." There were many times growing up that I questioned that. It took me many years to understand that the brick walls in my path had holes in them. I just had to take the step to walk through them. Change tak