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Don't Believe The Lies


 It's so easy to get caught up and stuck on negative words that have been said to us, along with believing the labels that have been placed upon us. It makes us forget who we really are because we begin to believe the lies and lose sight of our goals, our dreams, and our purpose. We begin to believe the labels that are given to us. My father always had the comment, "is that the best that you can do?", no matter what I did. I carried the not good enough label way into my twenties. My mother always commented on weight, so I also carried the body image label. I became obsessed with working out for many years. Although I enjoyed the lifestyle of working out and being physically fit; I realized I was doing for reasons other than my health.


I was reminded of this when I met with a client last week. I had an emotional and deep conversation with a young man that started out in anger, quickly turned into tears, and ended with clarity and restored faith.

Everything he was screaming about was based on the opinions of others. I asked, " Why do you allow what others say and think consume your thoughts - you know who you are, and God knows your truth. You can't allow others to steal your joy and disrupt your peace. "

I shared with him that everything I do in my life I can live with at the end of the day. I believe in my choices and take responsibility for my decisions. I don't allow others to have that control.
I live my life based on God, not my family, friends, acquaintances, or strangers. I don't feel the need to worry about what others think or say about me. Furthermore, I have no problem saying no to what doesn't please God or feed my soul. I learned many years ago that it doesn't matter what I do in my life, there will always be judgement from others - we live in a judgmental world. I can't allow what others think or say hold me back, and keep me from living my purpose.

Once you acknowledge your identity you'll quit living for the approval of others. Walk your walk in faith and confidence in the direction that God leads you. Don't let the outside voices of the world break you down and beat you up - you were put on earth for greatness.

I want to end with this powerful song that lifts me up whenever doubt or fear tries to creep in and steal my peace.

Peace, Love, & Hugs!

 





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